It happens to us all from time to time: we wake up on the wrong side of the bed or have a rushed, tense morning that leads to a day that just keeps going downhill. Before you know it, you’re stressed and irritated, just wishing the day would end.
What if I told you that there are several simple ways to powerfully reset your bad day and change your whole trajectory?
Well, when you’re having a bad day, it’s root cause is typically because you’ve lost one or more of your seven life connections: body, spirit, intimacy, nature, senses, mind or emotions. These life connections are necessary for every individual’s holistic well-being. Let’s discuss how to connect with each as a way to powerfully reset and quickly turn around a bad day.
1. Reconnect with your body.
If you only have three minutes to spare, and maybe some privacy, turn on your favorite upbeat song and dance your heart out. There are few bad days that can’t be reset quickly using this method.
Learn a simple yoga sequence to use when you have 10-15 minutes to spare. Yoga is one of the single most effective ways to feel and appreciate your personal connection to your body. It’s an easily accessible practice to learn and remember using free online resources.
If you’ve got thirty or more minutes, consider jumping into a workout and focus on the movements of your body while doing so. Don’t distract yourself with Netflix or reading while exercising, though, revel in the motions and relish in awe of the miracle that is your body.
2. Reconnect with your spirit or self.
Taking a few minutes to meditate or pray daily can have a profound effect on your life and also makes re-framing a bad day considerably easier.
There is a truly astounding number of different kinds of meditation and anyone can find a style that suits their personality. Between spiritual, secular, mindfulness, moving, focused, mantras, and more, the options are endless.
If you consider yourself religious, try prayer beads to help you move through a series of prayers in a way that’s similar to meditation.
3. Reconnect with others.
As human beings, we crave connection and intimacy with others we care about. We need regular and profound connection on both the emotional and physical levels.
Most women have the emotional part of connecting with others down no problem but still struggle with the physical aspect. Make time for physicality with your partner, whatever that means to you: cuddling, kissing, hugging, loving touch or sex. Instigate or tell your partner when you need some physical attention instead of expecting him or her to read your mind. Most healthy partners out there are more than happy to oblige.
Even something as simple as an extended full-body hug or holding hands during a movie can sometimes refresh your connection to others and reset your bad day quickly… and it makes the other person feel just as good, so it’s a win-win!
4. Reconnect with nature.
It doesn’t matter if it’s hot, cold or mild- getting outside will do you a world of good when you’re having a rough go of it.
Opt out of playing music and leave the phone at home so you can focus on the sights around you and the sensation of the sun or breeze on your skin. Be present and notice the smallest details around you as you walk down the street or around the block.
If you can, sit on the grass. Run your fingers through it. Lie back and look at the sky. Smell the freshness of the world around you, if even for only five minutes.
If it’s raining or there’s some other type of inclement weather going on, spend a few minutes by a window to get some daylight or turn on some nature sounds. The sound of birds singing combined with running water can have an immediate positive effect on turning your day around. Noisli.com is a great, free option for customizable nature sounds right in your browser. (<<< no affiliation, just the best option I’ve found!)
5. Reconnect with your neglected senses.
Our sense of smell, in particular, is one that we often forget to indulge beyond the everyday manufactured personal hygiene scents of perfume, lotion, shampoo, and deodorant. Our brains instinctively know the difference between natural scents and artificial scents.
Shock your scent system by cutting open a fresh orange or crushing a sprig of fresh herbs like rosemary or mint. Fill your space with natural scent directly from the source when possible to instantly boost your day.
If that’s not a possibility, consider diffusing high-quality essential oils in your workspace or home as the next best thing.
The other sense to consider is taste. There are a variety of healthy, natural flavors that can help you reconnect to your taste buds. Chew a fresh spearmint leaf, piece of licorice root, or even a slice of lemon to liven your senses quickly. Fresh fruit or raw veggies are always a good choice when eaten mindfully. Concentrate on the flavors and textures while doing so.
6. Reconnect with your mind, intellect or imagination.
When was the last time you read a book? Since smartphones have become so ubiquitous throughout our daily lives, there’s been a massive shift in the way we consume information.
Most of what we read nowadays tends to be online and in fairly short form which typically means that we’re not getting as many deep dives on various topics and subjects.
Whether you want to read non-fiction to grow your intellect or fiction to flex your imagination, books allow your mind to become immersed. It allows you to examine a topic or storyline from a variety of angles or facets which force your brain to work differently than it does through everyday life. Often during this process, your subconscious will work out any nagging fears or worries in the background, leaving you feeling lighter and refreshed after 30-50 minutes of immersive reading.
7. Reconnect with your emotions.
It’s an unfortunate side-effect of many modern careers and situations that we can fall into the habit of repressing our feelings. Doing so weakens our emotional life connection which can easily lead to feelings of numbness or detachment.
Luckily, fixing this one is easy.
We all have those things that make us instantly feel a swell of strong emotion. Perhaps it’s a nostalgic song or photo. Maybe it’s a particular place or object. Sit with it, close your eyes, and feel the emotion that comes up for you. Swim in it for a minute or two.
Which emotion doesn’t matter so much but strong positive ones work best: joy, love, pride, etc. The goal is to feel deeply and wake that part of yourself.
For me, it’s [INSERT THING HERE]. It instantly makes me feel [EMOTION] because [REASON].
To recap, the seven life connections are body, spirit, intimacy, nature, senses, mind, and emotions.
When these seven life connections are working in harmony, it’s nearly impossible for your day to devolve to the point that you can’t wait for it to be over. Yes, you may have challenges throughout your day, but when each connection is firmly in place, you’re able to keep moving forward in peace and positivity.
The next time you start to see a “bad” day taking shape, stop, evaluate, and powerfully reset it using these simple techniques.